Consequences Work
But not When Dealing with Untreated ADD
by Elaine M. Gibson
What does impulsivity have to do with consequences?
Impulsivity is one of the hallmarks of Attention Deficit Disorder. If
anyone should know about this, it is our son, Chuck. For 17 years we
wondered why he never seemed to learn from his mistakes. We couldn't figure
out how such a smart child showed such an obvious lack of judgment.
After Chuck's ADD was diagnosed and the proper medication started, we had
a thinking person in our house. ADD is not a defect in character but a very
real defect in the brain. Neurotransmitters in the frontal lobes work well
in most people. This section of the brain controls impulse and allows for
forward thinking, such as consequences. In the ADD brain, this process is
impaired. Stimulants activate the brain and the brain then functions.
Chuck described his sense of impulsivity before taking his medication to
his doctor like this:
Sometimes you think of something and you think, "That would be
fun." so you do it. You don't think about what will happen, about
what most people would think about like, "Is it legal?" You
don't think, Will I be embarrassed? Will I be humiliated? You just do
it. Sometimes you have a second thought. You think, Do I really want to
do this? " Hell, yes. I thought of it in the first place." And
you do it. That's impulsive.
As his mother, I can assure you that he just did it! The confusing part was
seeing how upset he would be with himself after something happened. Nothing
about it made sense. After the right medication was found, Chuck said:
Wow, Mom. I can think before I do things. This is great.
We'll second that. I worked hard at consistently enforcing consequences.
Chuck couldn't learn from his mistakes because they were never in his mind
at that moment of action. Now they are. And all the years of enforcing the
rules paid off. He really does know the difference between what is
acceptable and what is not. Now he can use that knowledge to make his
decision and think before he acts. He is still impulsive, but not
dangerously so.
I hate to see children who are diagnosed ADD denied the benefits of the
proper medication and told that they must try harder. We don't tell
diabetics to try harder to regulate their blood sugar. ADD is evidence of a
defective system. Nothing more. For some people, medication is a life-saver,
no different than insulin. Chuck says that ADD stole his childhood.
Untreated ADD lands lots of people in prison. Something can be done about
it.
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