Anger Management Classes Likely to Increase Domestic Abuse

They are normal people. No one is born an abuser. They learned to be controlling - and they can unlearn it if they are willing to. They have to go into recovery mode. It's possible.

I see there is controlling issues on both sides and anger on both sides and violence on both sides. In a sexist society that blames men for everything (or white men), anger control classes for men only simply furthers the deep resentment. It soesn't matter who gets assaulted or calls the cops it is the man who goes to jail and then gets ordered to anger control class. Now he has a prior history of assault and he will continue to be blamed. Meanwhile the woman goes to "victim" class and learns she can get away with anything. Why not continue to abuse him the cops are on my side! The guy thinks hey I'm going to jail no matter what so why not punch her?
Now there are district attorneys who drop any charges against women and refuse to dropo charges on men. They are making it look like men are more violent.
My point is this...stop making the problem worse and if anybody goes to anger control they both go and if any body goes to victim class they both go!!

I am doing a dv course ATM and have realised how bad of a person I was to my former partner I really wish we could of done this together and seen the ways we were both treating each other I have and will keep reading your replys to learn more about my emotions and feelings that I have done to hurt the ones I love so keep up the good work and thankyou I am on the right path to fixing my problem

Domestic abuse as phenomenon of manipulative and intrigued interpersonal relationship in family life exhibits great and perplex problem of social psychology, respectively psycho-social pathology. In this way, it is hard work to distinguish domestic abuse from domestic violence, that have very dangerous repercussions for global welfare to whole family social network. For me, domestic abuse is disguised form of domestic violence, that mean that abuser in masked and hidden form manifest its dysocial conduction toward weak members of its family. On the other hand, your six counter-balanced observation on Anger management techniques to domestic abuse incites intrigued and provocative solution. However they are smart contribute to this common psycho-social problem that damages the integrity and function of many family communities. Indeed, domestic abuse is complex and multidimensional problem that requires omnipotent and professional look-out. Among different approaches the technique to stop abuser to think for hours and hours on the set of manipulations to others indicates hopeful and promising way. I mean that abusers for hours think and compiling the plan of abusive behavior. So, the interruption of antisocial sketch will destroy their destructive daily activity in family milieu.

Could you provide a response to these thoughts please? I still believe that anger and frustration are the dominant driving forces behind most domestic and family violence. Anger from being hurt as a child by those who supposedly loved them; anger from not getting the consistent love they needed; anger from feeling powerless to protect themselves, others and their pets from being harmed; and anger from failing to have some control over the chaos surrounding and impacting upon them.
We are told by experts that anger that has not been dealt with or resolved gets internalised or directed at others. The result being childhood aggression, bullying, pet abuse, mental illness, substance abuse and later adolescent and intimate partner violence. These consequences are all too familiar to us.
I fear that until such time as politicians, community leaders and anti-domestic violence organisations acknowledge negative childhood experiences as being the most likely underlying root cause of the domestic and family violence, very little will change. However, I am not denying that other actions, including the ones you have mentioned above also need to be taken.

Someone I used to work with took classes as a result of his Domestic Violence charge. He STILL says the charge wasn't really DV, and the while the classes seem to have made him better at communicating, they also taught him how to gauge his voice and be a better manipulator. His divorce is final now, but they still have a child, and he tries to manipulate his ex whenever he thinks he deserves an advantage (he is convinced that if she moves out of state, which she is trying to do, that she will legally have to pay for him to move there as well since he doesn't have the means-she was the main breadwinner in their marriage).

Does this apply to verbal abusers? Is anger management not the solution for them either? What do you suggest in the case of verbal only abuse?

My solution or alternative to anger management for abusive people:
Outside of the court sysem: If a person chooses to learn how to be non-abusive, then they could educate themselves with the literature in books websites to see HOW they are abusive. Identifying the behaviors is the first step. Then, commit to themselves to change those behaviors. Third, go to therapy individually with a counselor who will help them figure out how they became abusive, what the effects have been, and to unravel the years of bad training. The therapy will help the person to not only recognize their patterns but give them support as they change these innate qualities and create a better life. Therapy would also be helpful if the victims of the person decide they don't trust the change and leave the relationship despite what the person is doing. When it's all said and done, change is in the hands of the (former) abuser.
For the courts: Judges must understand that anger management classes do not meet the needs of abusive people. Courts can order abusers to follow the type of system I outlined above because somewhere in the process, the abuser may decide to change even though the process is not his or her choice. That said, the main idea the courts must learn is that sending the abuser to some type of class or therapy does not make it safer for the abuser's victims (adult or child). The court cannot look the other way because they've "helped" the abuser and s/he "completes" the order. Once an abuser is sentenced to a process of change, the court must involve social services (in the form of domestic violence counselors) on behalf of the victims. The victims often do not understand the intricacies of domestic violence. They may believe that completing the course of treatment will change their partner; there are no guarantees that it will. They need an education so they're able to make an informed decision of whether to stay in or leave the relationship.
There are details that I will probably think of later, but that's the general outline of what I would do as an alternative to anger management.
What would you do, Chris?