Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism List Table of Contents

The INDEX

Listowner: Dr. Sam Vaknin

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• Narcissism The Pathology
• Narcissists and their Emotions
• Narcissists and their Supply Sources
• Narcissists in Therapy
• How to Cope with a Narcissist?
• Narcissists and Women
• The Narcissist and His Mate /Colleague / Partner / Spouse / Family
• Narcissists in the Workplace
• Narcissism and Historical Figures
• Co-Morbidity (Narcissism with other Mental Health Disorders) and Dual Diagnosis (Narcissism with Substance Abuse)
• Our Narcissistic Culture
• Sam Vaknin, NPD
• My Journals (First Published on Suite101)

Narcissism The Pathology

Archive 1 Excerpt 5: Epidemiology of Narcissism
Archive 1 Excerpt 13: Self Defeating and Self Destructive Behaviors
Archive 1 Excerpt 16: The vocations of Narcissist
Archive 1 Excerpt 17: Lazy Narcissists
Archive 2 Excerpt 3: Narcissistic Identity
Archive 2 Excerpt 4: Narcissists, Right and Wrong
Archive 2 Excerpt 6: Narcissists have Tables of Emotional Resonance
Archive 2 Excerpt 7: Contradictory Behaviors of Narcissists
Archive 2 Excerpt 10: Narcissists and Manipulation
Archive 3 Excerpt 1: Narcissists and Chemical Imbalances
Archive 3 Excerpt 7: NPD and Dual Diagnoses
Archive 3 Excerpt 9: From "Narcissism and the Search for Interiority" by Donald Kalsched
Archive 4 Excerpt 3: Narcissistic Self Absorption
Archive 5 Excerpt 3: Narcissism as Self-definition
Archive 5 Excerpt 6: Devaluing the Significant Other
Archive 5 Excerpt 7: Should the Narcissist be Held Accountable for his Actions?
Archive 5 Excerpt 13: The Internalized Voice of the Narcissist
Archive 6 Excerpt 1: Narcissists and Ego Dystony
Archive 6 Excerpt 8: Degrees of Narcissism
Archive 6 Excerpt 14: Unified Dysfunction Theory
Archive 7 Excerpt 4: The Enemy
Archive 7 Excerpt 6: Narcissists as Drug Addicts
Archive 7 Excerpt 7: Alexander Lowen
Archive 7 Excerpt 15: Narcissistic Myths
Archive 8 Excerpt 1: Do Infants Trigger their Own Abuse?
Archive 8 Excerpt 4: Superego
Archive 8 Excerpt 7: The Human Machine
Archive 8 Excerpt 8: Conscience
Archive 9 Excerpt 3: Inverted Narcissism
Archive 10 Excerpt 1: The Exposure of the Narcissist
Archive 10 Excerpt 3: Narcissists, Disagreements and Criticism
Archive 10 Excerpt 4: Unresolved Conflicts
Archive 10 Excerpt 10: Fortress Narcissism
Archive 10 Excerpt 11: Inverted Narcissists
Archive 11 Excerpt 1: The Productive Narcissist
Archive 11 Excerpt 8: Self Confidence and Real Achievements
Archive 12 Excerpt 1: The Narcissist and Total Institutions
Archive 12 Excerpt 3: The Denial Mechanisms of the Narcissist
Archive 12 Excerpt 5: Traumas and Personality Disorders
Archive 12 Excerpt 8: The Narcissist a Gift to Humanity
Archive 12 Excerpt 10: Forms of Aggression
Archive 12 Excerpt 11: Narcissist the Sadist
Archive 12 Excerpt 12: Somatic versus Cerebral Narcissists
Archive 13 Excerpt 1: The Formation of a Narcissist as a Reaction to His Narcissistic Parents
Archive 13 Excerpt 3: Narcissism The Individualist's Reaction
Archive 14 Excerpt 1: Abusive Parents
Archive 14 Excerpt 3: Narcissistic Regression versus NPD
Archive 14 Excerpt 8: Narcissism and Genetics
Archive 15 Excerpt 1: Money and the Narcissist
Archive 15 Excerpt 6: Sexual Abuse
Archive 17 Excerpt 4: Narcissism as an Adaptive Strategy
Archive 17 Excerpt 5: The Zombie Narcissist
Archive 18 Excerpt 2: Narcissism is an Addiction
Archive 18 Excerpt 4: Emotional Investment in Pathology and Healing
Archive 18 Excerpt 5: The Emergence of the True Self
Archive 18 Excerpt 6: Bonding with "God"
Archive 18 Excerpt 7: Group Sex as seen by the Narcissist
Archive 18 Excerpt 8: Overt and Covert
Archive 19 Excerpt 2: Hating Love
Archive 19 Excerpt 5: Cognitive Distortions and the Narcissist
Archive 19 Excerpt 6: Sexual versus other forms of Abuse
Archive 19 Excerpt 7: The Narcissist and his Dead Ones
Archive 20 Excerpt 1: There is no Goal
Archive 20 Excerpt 2: Inverted Narcissists Once More
Archive 20 Excerpt 3: Losing Control
Archive 20 Excerpt 10: The Pleasures of the Somatic Narcissist
Archive 21 Excerpt 1: Narcissistic Healing through LOVE or through PAIN?
Archive 21 Excerpt 4: Inverted Narcissists ARE Narcissists
Archive 21 Excerpt 6: Fulfilling Others' Dreams
Archive 22 Excerpt 4: Narcissists and Control
Archive 22 Excerpt 6: Is Narcissism Learned? Can it be Unlearned?
Archive 23 Excerpt 2: Vindictive Narcissists
Archive 23 Excerpt 4: The Good Enough Mother
Archive 24 Excerpt 1: The Restrained Narcissist
Archive 24 Excerpt 9: Narcissism
Archive 24 Excerpt 10: Addicted
Archive 24 Excerpt 11: False Self
Archive 24 Excerpt 12: Worth and Grandiosity
Archive 27 Excerpt 1: Types of Narcissists
Archive 28 Excerpt 2: Eye Contact
Archive 28 Excerpt 3: Narcissism Forming
Archive 28 Excerpt 5: More about the False Self and the True Self
Archive 30 Excerpt 4: Narcissists ARE Appearances
Archive 30 Excerpt 7: The Rational Narcissist
Archive 31 Excerpt 1: Euphoria and Dysphoria
Archive 31 Excerpt 3: On the Move
Archive 31 Excerpt 5: N-magnets a Bad Metaphor
Archive 31 Excerpt 6: Ideas of Reference
Archive 33 Excerpt 1: Mirror Gazing
Archive 33 Excerpt 2: More on the Grandiosity Gap
Archive 33 Excerpt 3: Self-Awareness and Healing
Archive 33 Excerpt 4: Narcissistic Vulnerability
Archive 34 Excerpt 2: When can a Classic Narcissist become an Inverted Narcissist?
Archive 34 Excerpt 3: The Forms of Abuse
Archive 34 Excerpt 4: The Psychopath and the Narcissist
Archive 34 Excerpt 7: Amelioration of Narcissism
Archive 34 Excerpt 8: Inside, Outside
Archive 35 Excerpt 2: Can Narcissists be Helped by Hypnosis?
Archive 35 Excerpt 3: Predicting the Narcissist
Archive 36 Excerpt 2: Pathological Narcissism Under-diagnosed

Narcissists and their Emotions

Archive 2 Excerpt 1: A Letter to a Narcissist
Archive 3 Excerpt 8: Narcissists imitating Emotions
Archive 4 Excerpt 5: PDs and Self-Mourning
Archive 4 Excerpt 9: Self Pity and Grief
Archive 5 Excerpt 2: Pathological Envy
Archive 5 Excerpt 4: Narcissistic Ups and Downs
Archive 5 Excerpt 9: Narcissists put on a show regarding their "emotions"?
Archive 6 Excerpt 11: I am Very Sad
Archive 7 Excerpt 2: My Shame
Archive 8 Excerpt 5: Emotional Daltonism
Archive 11 Excerpt 9: Communicating Emotions
Archive 11 Excerpt 10: Possessive Jealousy
Archive 13 Excerpt 4: Somatizing Our Emotions
Archive 13 Excerpt 5: The "Love" of the Narcissist
Archive 14 Excerpt 2: Hatred and Anger
Archive 16 Excerpt 3: Narcissists Feel Deceitful
Archive 17 Excerpt 6: Imitated Empathy
Archive 17 Excerpt 7: Narcissism and Self Loathing
Archive 17 Excerpt 9: The Deception that is the Narcissist
Archive 21 Excerpt 3: Being IN LOVE and LOVING
Archive 21 Excerpt 7: Not to Feel Anything
Archive 23 Excerpt 5: Vindicating One's Self Loathing
Archive 25 Excerpt 1: Resistance is Futile?
Archive 25 Excerpt 4: Fight!
Archive 25 Excerpt 7: Falling in Love with Ourselves
Archive 26 Excerpt 4: Aggression
Archive 26 Excerpt 5: To Live and to Grieve
Archive 26 Excerpt 6: Anticipatory Panic
Archive 26 Excerpt 7: My Warden
Archive 26 Excerpt 8: Love, this Bastard
Archive 30 Excerpt 1: Narcissists are Never Happy
Archive 30 Excerpt 3: Being Embarrassed
Archive 30 Excerpt 6: People are Tired
Archive 32 Excerpt 4: Loving and Believing that You Love

Narcissists and their Supply Sources

Archive 1 Excerpt 1: Why does the narcissist devalue his source of secondary narcissistic supply?
Archive 5 Excerpt 8: Narcissists Getting Tired of their Sources of Supply
Archive 6 Excerpt 12: The Narcissistic Hunt
Archive 6 Excerpt 15: Humbling Oneself
Archive 10 Excerpt 2: Could Negative Input be Narcissistic supply?
Archive 10 Excerpt 5: The Narcissist wants to be liked?
Archive 10 Excerpt 6: Old Sources of Narcissistic Supply (NS)
Archive 14 Excerpt 5: Deleting Past Sources of Narcissistic Supply
Archive 17 Excerpt 8: In Pursuit of Narcissistic Supply
Archive 24 Excerpt 3: Myself as a Source of Narcissistic Supply to Others, or: The Existence of Others
Archive 24 Excerpt 5: Is there an Ideal Source of Supply?
Archive 24 Excerpt 8: You are a Source of Supply
Archive 29 Excerpt 2: Human Supply
Archive 32 Excerpt 2: From Desperation to Happiness
Archive 32 Excerpt 3: Internal Combustion and External Propulsion
Archive 32 Excerpt 5: The Art of Un-Being
Archive 32 Excerpt 6: The Narcissist's Refrigerator

Narcissists in Therapy

Archive 1 Excerpt 2: Narcissistic Mental Health Professionals
Archive 1 Excerpt 4: NPD Treatments SSRI
Archive 1 Excerpt 9: Cultural Sensitivity of Therapists
Archive 1 Excerpt 11: Psychodynamic versus Cognitive-Behavioral Treatments
Archive 1 Excerpt 14: Narcissism not curable?
Archive 3 Excerpt 7: NPD and Dual Diagnoses
Archive 4 Excerpt 8: Psychodynamic Therapies
Archive 5 Excerpt 10: Narcissists Facing their Diagnosis
Archive 6 Excerpt 7: Narcissists and Group Therapy
Archive 7 Excerpt 1: Can Narcissists be Cured?
Archive 11 Excerpt 11: Pessimism versus Realism in the Treatment of Narcissists
Archive 12 Excerpt 4: Therapy
Archive 12 Excerpt 6: Narcissists and Medication
Archive 12 Excerpt 13: The Narcissist and the Therapist
Archive 24 Excerpt 6: Destruction and Construction
Archive 26 Excerpt 9: Going to Therapy
Archive 26 Excerpt 10: Official Psychology and NPD

How to Cope with a Narcissist?

Archive 1 Excerpt 3: How to Cope with a Narcissist
Archive 3 Excerpt 3: Should I leave him?
Archive 6 Excerpt 15: Humbling Oneself
Archive 7 Excerpt 3: Luring a Narcissist
Archive 15 Excerpt 2: Treating your Narcissist
Archive 15 Excerpt 4: What to tell your Narcissist?
Archive 19 Excerpt 4: Leaving a Narcissist
Archive 20 Excerpt 5: How to Assuage a Narcissist
Archive 21 Excerpt 2: The Narcissist in Court
Archive 31 Excerpt 7: Fighting Back
Archive 34 Excerpt 9: How does the Narcissist Perceive my Indifference to his Abuse?

Narcissists and Women

Archive 5 Excerpt 12: Male Narcissists and Women
Archive 6 Excerpt 6: Narcissists are Misogynists
Archive 9 Excerpt 4: Narcissists and Women
Archive 13 Excerpt 6: Misogynism Once More ...
Archive 26 Excerpt 1: Women

The Narcissist and His Mate / Colleague / Partner / Spouse / Family

Archive 1 Excerpt 6: Rescue Fantasies
Archive 1 Excerpt 7: Loving a Narcissist
Archive 2 Excerpt 2: Narcissists in the Family
Archive 3 Excerpt 3: Should I leave him?
Archive 3 Excerpt 4: Significant Others, Significant Roles
Archive 3 Excerpt 6: Humans as Instruments
Archive 4 Excerpt 4: Narcissists as Friends
Archive 5 Excerpt 11: Narcissists and Happy Marriages
Archive 5 Excerpt 16: The Narcissist as Body Snatcher
Archive 6 Excerpt 2: VoNPD (Victims of NPD)
Archive 6 Excerpt 3: Surrounded by Inferiors
Archive 6 Excerpt 4: Narcissists Hurting Others
Archive 6 Excerpt 12: The Narcissistic Hunt
Archive 6 Excerpt 13: WHY?
Archive 6 Excerpt 15: Humbling Oneself
Archive 7 Excerpt 3: Luring a Narcissist
Archive 7 Excerpt 5: Victim or Survivor?
Archive 8 Excerpt 3: Disinterested Narcissists
Archive 8 Excerpt 12: Accusing the Victims
Archive 9 Excerpt 5: Narcissists and their Ex's
Archive 9 Excerpt 6: Narcissists Victimize
Archive 10 Excerpt 7: Hurting Others
Archive 10 Excerpt 8: Narcissists and Intimacy
Archive 11 Excerpt 2: Abandoning the Narcissist
Archive 11 Excerpt 3: Unloving the Sick or Needy Spouse
Archive 11 Excerpt 4: Moving On
Archive 11 Excerpt 5: Inspirational Messages
Archive 11 Excerpt 6: The Phases of Mourning
Archive 11 Excerpt 7: Forgiving Enemies, Forgetting Friends
Archive 12 Excerpt 7: NPD Son
Archive 12 Excerpt 14: Being Nice to Others
Archive 13 Excerpt 2: The Test of Archaic Chinese
Archive 14 Excerpt 4: Narcissists and Abandonment
Archive 15 Excerpt 2: Treating your Narcissist
Archive 15 Excerpt 4: What to tell your Narcissist?
Archive 15 Excerpt 5: Narcissists Hate Happy People
Archive 16 Excerpt 4: Healing through Hatred
Archive 18 Excerpt 3: You are not to Blame!
Archive 19 Excerpt 3: Living with a Narcissist
Archive 19 Excerpt 4: Leaving a Narcissist
Archive 20 Excerpt 5: How to Assuage a Narcissist
Archive 20 Excerpt 6: Don't Kiss Me without Permission
Archive 20 Excerpt 8: Love as Domination
Archive 21 Excerpt 8: The Presumption of Understanding the Narcissist A Piece of Irony
Archive 22 Excerpt 5: Meaningful to Who?
Archive 23 Excerpt 6: The Narcissist as a Meaningful Other
Archive 24 Excerpt 7: Punishing Others
Archive 25 Excerpt 2: Narcissists as Vampires
Archive 25 Excerpt 3: The Need to be Hopeful
Archive 25 Excerpt 5: The Narcissist as Predator
Archive 25 Excerpt 6: Seeking Help
Archive 26 Excerpt 2: Do not be Afraid
Archive 26 Excerpt 11: Loving Narcissism
Archive 27 Excerpt 3: Love
Archive 27 Excerpt 4: It is not What you DO
Archive 27 Excerpt 5: You know what you have to DO
Archive 27 Excerpt 6: Presumptions
Archive 27 Excerpt 7: Humanizing the Beast
Archive 28 Excerpt 4: The Human Maelstroms
Archive 28 Excerpt 6: Detoxifying
Archive 30 Excerpt 2: The Off-Handed Narcissist
Archive 30 Excerpt 5: Personal Incompatibility
Archive 31 Excerpt 2: Saying Goodbye
Archive 31 Excerpt 4: Creating Dependence
Archive 31 Excerpt 5: N-magnets a Bad Metaphor
Archive 31 Excerpt 7: Fighting Back
Archive 32 Excerpt 1: How to Protect my Son from Narcissism?
Archive 33 Excerpt 5: Narcissists, Violence and Domestic Abuse
Archive 34 Excerpt 1: Follies a Deux
Archive 34 Excerpt 6: The Professional Victims
Archive 35 Excerpt 1: How to Leave a Narcissist
Archive 35 Excerpt 4: Narcissists and Children

Narcissists in the Workplace

Archive 2 Excerpt 11: The Narcissist Employer

Narcissism and Historical Figures

Archive 1 Excerpt 8: Hitler and Narcissism
Archive 1 Excerpt 12: Bill Clinton a Narcissist?

Co-Morbidity (Narcissism with other Mental Health Disorders) and Dual Diagnosis (Narcissism with Substance Abuse)

Archive 4 Excerpt 1: HPD (Histrionic Personality Disorder) and Somatic NPD
Archive 4 Excerpt 2: Narcissists and Depression
Archive 4 Excerpt 6: DID and NPD
Archive 4 Excerpt 7: NPD and ADHD
Archive 4 Excerpt 11: BPD, NPD and other Cluster B PDs
Archive 7 Excerpt 8: NPDs and other PDs
Archive 7 Excerpt 9: Incest without Sex?
Archive 7 Excerpt 10: NPD and DID
Archive 7 Excerpt 11: Plasticity
Archive 8 Excerpt 2: Narcissism, Wife Beating and Alcoholism
Archive 8 Excerpt 9: BPD and NPD
Archive 8 Excerpt 10: The Personality Disordered
Archive 8 Excerpt 11: Robert Hare
Archive 8 Excerpt 13: Multiple Diagnoses and NPD
Archive 9 Excerpt 2: Schizotypal Personality Disorder
Archive 12 Excerpt 9: Co-dependents and Narcissists
Archive 12 Excerpt 11: Narcissist the Sadist
Archive 19 Excerpt 1: The Hated-Hating Personality Disordered
Archive 20 Excerpt 4: The Borderline Narcissist A Psychotic?
Archive 20 Excerpt 7: The Root of Evil
Archive 21 Excerpt 5: Masochism and Narcissism
Archive 22 Excerpt 1: Narcissists and Sexual Perversions
Archive 22 Excerpt 3: Hysteroid Dysphoria
Archive 23 Excerpt 7: On the Irrelevance of Labeling
Archive 27 Excerpt 2: The Inverted Narcissist A Masochist?
Archive 28 Excerpt 7: NPD, AsPD
Archive 34 Excerpt 5: The Diagnostic and Statistics Manual (DSM)

Our Narcissistic Culture

Archive 1 Excerpt 10: NPD, culture and normalcy
Archive 1 Excerpt 15: Narcissism and Culture
Archive 1 Excerpt 16: The vocations of Narcissists
Archive 2 Excerpt 5: In Defense of Narcissists
Archive 2 Excerpt 8: From "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho
Archive 2 Excerpt 9: Narcissism's Gifts to Humanity
Archive 3 Excerpt 5: Lasch, the Cultural Narcissist
Archive 4 Excerpt 10: Should we License Parents?
Archive 5 Excerpt 1: Jeffrey Satinover on the Myth of Narcissus
Archive 5 Excerpt 5: Narcissists and the Order of the World
Archive 6 Excerpt 5: Narcissists and Art
Archive 6 Excerpt 9: Narcissism and Evil
Archive 6 Excerpt 10: Why do Narcissists Exist?
Archive 7 Excerpt 12: A Core of Values?
Archive 7 Excerpt 13: Licensing Parents (continued)
Archive 7 Excerpt 14: Nations as Patients
Archive 8 Excerpt 6: Atheism
Archive 9 Excerpt 1: Love and Sex
Archive 10 Excerpt 9: Personality Disorders are Culture-Dependent?
Archive 12 Excerpt 2: The Cultural Roots of one Narcissist
Archive 12 Excerpt 15: Prostituting our Selves
Archive 14 Excerpt 7: Narcissism and Nihilism
Archive 15 Excerpt 7: Punishing Evil
Archive 15 Excerpt 8: Psychology
Archive 18 Excerpt 1: Linear Time, Cyclical Time
Archive 18 Excerpt 9: Oh, God
Archive 23 Excerpt 3: Narcissistic Thoughts about Humanity
Archive 36 Excerpt 1: Politicians as Narcissists

Sam Vaknin, NPD

Archive 3 Excerpt 2: Personal Anecdote
Archive 3 Excerpt 10: Sam Vaknin, NPD
Archive 5 Excerpt 14: My Role in the List
Archive 5 Excerpt 15: This Paradoxical List...
Archive 6 Excerpt 11: I am Very Sad
Archive 6 Excerpt 16: The Time before Narcissism
Archive 7 Excerpt 2: My Shame
Archive 14 Excerpt 6: Realizations
Archive 15 Excerpt 3: Forgetting my Self
Archive 16 Excerpt 1: Self Destructing Narcissists
Archive 16 Excerpt 2: The Fear of Being Loved
Archive 17 Excerpt 1: Interview with a Narcissist
Archive 17 Excerpt 2: Another One ... (Interview)
Archive 17 Excerpt 3: Email Exchange in preparation for an interview granted to Bob Goodman of "Natterbox"
Archive 20 Excerpt 9: My Guardian Angel
Archive 22 Excerpt 2: I Hate Birthdays
Archive 23 Excerpt 1: Interview at Amazon UK
Archive 24 Excerpt 2: About Myself (what else?)
Archive 24 Excerpt 3: Myself as a Source of Narcissistic Supply to Others, or: The Existence of Others
Archive 24 Excerpt 4: Right Now I am Enraged
Archive 26 Excerpt 3: The Information Addict
Archive 28 Excerpt 1: The Digital Narcissist (SEX)
Archive 29 Excerpt 1: Here you are, Madam
Archive 29 Excerpt 2: Human Supply
Archive 29 Excerpt 3: The Time of the Narcissist
Archive 29 Excerpt 4: Abuse
Archive 29 Excerpt 5: Success
Archive 29 Excerpt 6: Rejection
Archive 35 Excerpt 5: Why do I Write Poetry?
Archive 36 Excerpt 3: Interview The Narcissist as an Author
Archive 37 Excerpt 1: Application to the Media
Archive 37 Excerpt 3: Second Interview with Amazon
Archive 37 Excerpt 4: Interview to JustViews
Archive 37 Excerpt 5: Revisiting Myself
Archive 37 Excerpt 6: Interview to Independent Success!
Archive 38 Excerpt 1: Interview with Babel Magazine
Archive 39 Excerpt 1: Interview with Inscriptions Magazine
Archive 39 Excerpt 2: Correspondence with the New York Times
Archive 39 Excerpt 3: Interview with Writing Tips
Archive 41 Excerpt 1: Interview with New York Press
Archive 41 Excerpt 2: Interview with Modern Author

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