General Information on Attention Deficit Disorder

Pointers for parents of children with add and/or learning disabilities

1. Take the time to listen to your children as much as you can (really try to get their "Message").
2. Love them by touching them, hugging them, tickling them, wrestling with them (they need lots of physical contact).
3. Look for and encourage their strengths, interests, and abilities. Help them to use these as compensations for any limitations or disabilities.
4. Reward them with praise, good words, smiles, and pat on the back as often as you can.
5. Accept them for what they are and for their human potential for growth and development. Be realistic in your expectations and demands.
6. Involve them in establishing rules and regulations, schedules, and family activities.
7. Tell them when they misbehave and explain how you feel about their behavior; then have them propose other more acceptable ways of behaving.
8. Help them to correct their errors and mistakes by showing or demonstrating what they should do. Don't nag!
9. Give them reasonable chores and a regular family work responsibility whenever possible.
10. Give them an allowance as early as possible and then help them plan to spend within it.
11. Provide toys, games, motor activities and opportunities that will stimulate them in their development.
12. Read enjoyable stories to them and with them. Encourage them to ask questions, discuss stories, tell the story, and to reread stories.
13. Further their ability to concentrate by reducing distracting aspects of their environment as much as possible (provide them with a place to work, study and play).
14. Don't get hung up on traditional school grades! It is important that they progress at their own rates and be rewarded for doing so.
15. Take them to libraries and encourage them to select and check out books of interest. Have them share their books with you. Provide stimulating books and reading material around the house.
16. Help them to develop self-esteem and to compete with self rather than with others.
17. Insist that they cooperate socially by playing, helping, and serving others in the family and the community.
18. Serve as a model to them by reading and discussing material of personal interest. Share with them some of the things you are reading and doing.
19. Don't hesitate to consult with teachers or other specialists whenever you feel it to be necessary in order to better understand what might be done to help your child learn.

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