Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) Doesn’t Make You Violent

I agree in that DiD doesn’t make you violent, but there are people with DID (such as my mom) who can be very violent. Also, the people on blogs and getting help and so forth don’t represent everyone with DID. I’m sure there are many, many violent offenders in prison who have DID. Maybe the DID didn’t cause them to become violent, but their trauma did.
I also have DID. And I know that it is not safe for people or animals to live with me. This is just the facts and it’s devastating. I know that to be ethical and non-harming I have to live alone. To see me, I look kind and sweet. And parts of me are. But not all the parts. I’ve been officially diagnosed and in therapy over two years, and even if we all heal, I don’t think it’s worth the risk that I could hurt or kill somebody. Some risks can be taken, but I don’t think I could say, ‘hey- let’s move in together. By the way I had violent tendencies but I think I have it taken care of. You ok with that?’

The more I read, the more I realize that I still don't understand as well as I thought. And I feel it's a great shame. I'm a writer, and I have been working on a story for some time. One of my characters also has DID, and after realizing this, I decided to do some research. I asked friends who have DID, even met some of their more unpleasant alters. But I feel my misconceptions still dominate. I don't want to put more stigma on the condition, so I plan to work out some of these issues. In the meantime, I'll explain the character as he exists right now.
**Trigger warning!**
Long story short, the poor kid suffered horrific trauma when he was little. His grandfather, a man about as zealous as Margaret White, kidnapped him and held him hostage for about a year. During which, the man beat him, cut his arms with hot knives, and shouted scripture in his ears till it messed up his hearing.
That's when Sarah and Oliver were born. Sarah was the kid's first alter, based on his sister. A kind soul who helped calm his fears, remined him that he wasn't alone. She fronts when she sees someone in need of comfort. Oliver was born of the kid's want to stand up to his grandfather, which almost never worked. But that didn't stop him from trying. He fronts when he sees someone getting picked on.
And then came the shadow: Simon. When he fronts is as inconsistent as he is, but most often, it's either when the kid is anguished or scared or when it gets dark. And when he does front, chaos and misery ensue. Simon is callous, manipulative, and extremely sadistic, often starting fights or exploiting others' insecurities for his sick pleasure. To make matters worse, he's impeccable at reading people. He reflects every dark thought in his victims' heads and uses those thoughts to make them do horrible things. And though he can be violent, he seldom ever resorts to it, not unless he wants a bigger thrill.
Thankfully, Simon's control doesn't last long, not unless it's dark. But the mental scars he leaves on people, those last a lifetime. His own sister being one of his many victims.

some things we can't control, whether or not we like it or not. when people don't except you the way you are the violent part can be different. I never hurt anyone else but I have hurt myself without even knowing I did, until a few hours later I see scratch marks all over my body. and in the past my actions were not violent but my words were which can cause a decrease in exeptance

Hello, My ex-wife has a alter called Dee. She is extremely abusive, violent, and lies. This alter has attacked me, lied about me, and made up stories about me, for example, saying I did something that one of her abusers did to her. She alters truth, and she is never wrong, everything is my fault, and every positive thing, even if I alone did the positive thing, she takes credit for. This alter has tried to end my life twice. How come all I can find material on is the persecutor type, and all they do supposedly is hurt the host. I can tell you from over 15 years of experience it is not true that they only abuse the host and never other people. Where can I get more info and find people who have experienced what I have? Also, any other info on that particular part of DID. Shedding light on a disorder is wonderful. But it all has to come out. I do know that normally alters are not abusive to the ones around them. But it does happen. The alter even tried to stop me from going to therapy because Dee did not like what I was learning in therapy. Her last desperate attempt to stop me was, for the second time, to take a whole bottle of pills in front of our son and myself, then look at us and say, look what you made me do. Email me please with any info.

I'm a 44 year old black man who suffered rape and molestation by several male and female family members and family friends as a child.
I have lived with DID for over 20 years and have always known something was wrong, but the recent diagnosis and truth of DID, more specifically 'Tertiary Structural Dissociation', is confusing and extremely hard to handle.
I've recently, in the last 2 years, designed a T-shirt, released a cd, spent tons of money on hunting equipment and weapons - though I've never hunted before, and most recently, been consumed with the idea of relocating to a rural area and starting a homestead. I've even had a phone interview already with a place in the area willing to help me relocate.
And then i get this diagnosis.
I've identified 4 alters so far - sometimes i can feel the switch, other times I'm caught of guard, but i never seem to be able to do anything but watch.
My family and my son's mother do not understand my struggle and see me as under achieving, lazy, irresponsible and reprehensible.
I feel the same.
Feb 1 marked only the second time in my life that I've remained on a job longer than a year and even with that, i can feel myself no longer interested in a job i was once so proud to have.
My violent alter scares me. Not because of any violence he's done but because of how loud, aggressive, foul-mouthed and intimidating he is - that's not me.....

Jodie have you seen a therapist? Do you know your diagnosis? DID is complex. It ranges from anxiety,depression, eating disorders, self harm to name a few. Mostly it is being misunderstood or chaos from not being diagnosed properly. I do hope you.find help.

I live with self harming, anxiety and depression. I can wake up and be completely on edge and not understand why. The post can't come through the door without me sharing. I have constant mood swings which depend on sleep - how long I have had to sleep or whether I have woken from a terrible nightmare. I have self harmed since I was in primary school and this has continued in to adulthood. My depression was primarily caused by losing two daughters to Hydrops. I can't take my 4 kids the park or school or even the shop without feeling watched or stared at. I feel so bad some days I don't deem good enough to be their mum. I try so hard to put on a smile but once they are in bed the tears come and the sweating and then the despair. I have wanted to write since I was a child and this is something I have lived and continue to do so. Any advice would be gratefully appreciated on how to make this all known. My anxiety mainly caused to social services. But that's another story for another day.

As an abused child i made contact with a lady who stated was also abused. At her request i helped her escape an abusive environment and marriage and close family. However very quickly she revealed she had a dark side and if i ever revealed my life would not be worth living . This threat hung over me for 3 yrs until 5th Feb 2015 when her 2yr old alter revealed she was in a relationship with a sadist and a review meeting was planned for 4pm . As client thought i might reveal she made an allegation of a serious sexual assault . 18 days later contacted again and then 5 months later on Facebook . In 2016 she was prostituting herself again calling a slave stating been into lifestyle 14 yrs. I FEEL ANGER that social services and police have not acted whilst i being an innocent party have suffered . Client craves and seeks abuse . She is very dangerous and a sexual predator who blackmailed me for a large amount of money with threats of rape if i revealed her lifestyle choice. Now she has destroyed my life. Should have left her on the street when homeless