My Mental Health as a Caregiver

Caregiver mental health is important. The last couple of weeks were quite a struggle for me. Maybe this was related to the constant speed of life or the change in seasons. I'm not sure, but as a spouse to someone with schizophrenia, I take on extra responsibilities and my mental health as a caregiver comes into play.

I Often Ignore My Mental Health as a Caregiver

In addition to my responsibilities, I put a lot of unnecessary pressure on myself. I usually feel it is my responsibility to fulfill my roles in addition to those of my husband if he is unable. I try to be a perfect mother by doing the housework, caring for the children, running errands and helping my husband with items he views as his responsibilities such as our renovation project.

I try to ignore my feelings, desires and needs. In my mind, this helps my family and takes the burden off of my husband. I give all of my time to everyone else and leave no time for myself. But to be honest, this doesn't help anyone. My mental health as a caregiver then just ends up feeling completely isolated and alone.

The Mental Health of Caregivers Is Important Too

I have recently realized, that there is nothing wrong with recognizing my own mental health needs as a caregiver. Taking care of myself is important for both myself and my family. I am trying harder to make myself more of a priority and to give myself more time. I start my day by allowing myself time to do my hair and makeup and put on an outfit that makes me feel attractive. In turn, my interactions with my family are more positive, and I feel more whole. I am more understanding with my children and have a better relationship with my husband. Taking a little bit of time to start my day off in the right direction is making a big difference.

As a Caregiver, Make Your Mental Health a Priority and Find an Outlet

For those of you with family members suffering from mental illness, there are many steps you can take to meet your needs. For me, self-care means taking time out for myself every morning. For others, self-care may involve finding time to see a movie or catch a bite to eat. Proactive self-care may include setting aside time for a favorite hobby. It might require attending a support group or meeting with someone who can listen as you talk about your trials. Or it may be as simple as reading a blog such as this one and leaving a comment about your challenges. Many different outlets can help ease your burdens. It’s just a matter of finding the right one and making yourself a priority. 

I know that my family still has room for improvement. And we may do things a little bit differently than other families, but that is okay. All we can do is take life one day at a time and try our best. Just don't forget about your own mental health needs as a caregiver in the process.